By Alexander Milov
1. Ask yourself why: This is important in understanding the reason you do things. It causes you to self reflect. If you feel uncomfortable ask yourself why. If someonething gives you anxiety ask yourself why. If you’re about to make a decision ask yourself why 3 times and give yourself 3 different reasons why you believe in something then go and follow that path.
2. Negative Visceral Reactions : If you have negative self talk or feel a negative reaction stop it. Do breathing excessive to bring awareness into your thoughts. If you feel that you reacted in a negative or aggressive way its okay everyone is human. Say you’re sorry to yourself and move on. Practice stillness and breathing to clear your mind from these negative impulses.
3. Expand emotional vocabulary : When explaining yourself to someone take your time. Really think about the best way to explain something. Telling your mom this hurt my feelings or your boyfriend I am sad may not really aliviate the situation because they dont understand. Really take time in understanding how you feel and finding words that truly describe it this will help others empathize.
4. Saying No: Say no to temptations that do not align with your true self. Do not listen to your ego. If you want to stop calling or texting someone tell yourself no then go do something to distract you.
5. Know your flaws: Acknowledge that we are all humans in nature. We naturally make mistakes. However use everything as a learning experience. Realize why mistakes happened so you can prevent them from happening in the future.
6. Feedback: Sometimes its good to ask for constructive feedback from someone you really trust. Feedback will help you see and visualize the energy and image you are putting out there.
7. Body language: So important to improve your body language and posture. People pick up on this and even if you’re trying to act happy if your body language doesn’t match your mind language it is hard for the message to get across.
8. Self evaluation: This is probably my favorite. Keep track of all your progress and habits in a journal or on tumblr. I do both. I write my thoughts and relations of self on tumblr and I keep a journal to track my habits, progress and favorite things about myself. This allows me to self reflect and evaluate how i am doing.
9. Personality type: Know yourself, your phobias and anxiety. Understand what triggers you and why you act a certain way. Do research on your personality, quizzes and read studies. This helps you identify with a label that can be beneficial to understand why you act a certain way and realize that its okay. Know your skills and talents so you can maximize your strengths and minimize your weaknesses.
10. Meditation: I meditate everyday and my life is exponentially better. It allows you to get in tune with your mind, heart, soul and body. A short 10-15 minutes a day to focus on yourself does wonders.
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